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Things No One Tells You About Your First Few Weeks As a Parent

Things no one tells you about your first few weeks as a parent:
●You're secretly scared to death to leave the hospital and take care of this little human on your own. "What if you mess up?"
●When you get home, in between getting up every 2-3 hours to feed and change them you constantly wake up to make sure they are still breathing.
●When you have to go places you fight the urge to sit in the back seat with them (in the car)so you install a mirror so you can see them from up front. Since you had a C-section you can't really turn all the way around to see them from the passenger seat so you bug your husband every 5 seconds and ask him to look and see if the baby is ok.
● When you never worried or cared about storms before but now you stay up to watch the weather thinking you must have some sort of control over it for the safety of your new baby.
● You fight the urge to isolate yourself and be selfish with your baby.
● You're so worried your child isn't getting enough to eat bc he/she wants to feed every hour to 2 hours, then you get to the doctor and find out that they've packed on some pounds and they just wanted to be held.
● When letting them cry it out (bc they want the paci in their mouth at all times)bites you in the butt bc it makes your milk come in again.
● And finally, you think you will learn a lot about your baby, but really you learn more about yourself. How selfish you are. How insecure you are. How little faith you really have. How you really don't have any control. How you are a superwoman for going on 3 hours of sleep and still going. And how much you really need Jesus.

Here's to more learning, more love,and more grace.
-Shelbi Davis

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Physcially Fit vs. Spiritually Fit

Running The race...
Philippians 3:14-16 (ESV)
¹⁴ I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. ¹⁵ Let those of us who are mature think this way, and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal that also to you. ¹⁶ Only let us hold true to what we have attained.
 
Love fitness? Want to lose weight? Want to be healthy?
What if I told you that in order to stay healthy and physically fit
(and not let that consume your entire life and be obsessed with it) you first have to be Spiritually fit.
Yes I know...MORE WORK! We live in a lazy society, which is partly why we have "weak Christians" and "obesity".  Before we get to the core of this, let me state that your worth does not come from your physical appearance AT ALL. My point is to be focused on what  He says in Proverbs...
 Proverbs 23:7
"As a man thinks in his heart, so is he."
 
I have been through many diets, many exercise plans, many fads, eating disorders. You name it, I've done ! Some have worked, but only for a short while.
How can we take care of our temple and stay taking care of our temple? What if I don't have time? What if I don't have the money? Its no use, I'm just always going to be fat. Nothing works for me.
 
There is much more to being physically fit than the exterior. In order to run the race we must nourish our bodies with a balanced diet "on the inside" so we can build the muscle and the energy to exercise and get stronger. We must discipline ourselves to keep exercising so we get stronger and we can move on to the next harder workout. We must get enough rest so that we can recover and store up energy for the next day. Its hard work but if we take care of all of the stuff on the "inside" we will ultimately see results on the outside eventually.
 
The same goes for being spiritually fit. In order to be beautiful, you must set your mind on beautiful things, Jesus Christ. We need to nourish our soul with food, water, rest and EXERCISE! 

Food: Consuming Gods word.
 Don't like to read?- Download the "YouVersion Bible app" it will read it to you. Listen to it in the car, while you're cleaning house, while you're taking a shower.
In Eph 5 It says " the Sword of the Spirit is the Word of God", You have a Sword for when satan and his demons attack you. When you are in a spiritual warfare, the Holy Spirit your Swords(scriptures) and fights back. If you don't read His Word and store it in your heart though, how are you going to be ready for battle?
Hebrews 4:12
"For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart."
 
John 8:32
"Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."

Water: Prayer. Just like we have to drink a lot of water throughout the day, we must pray and stay connected with God throughout he day in order to get the nourishment that we need.

1 Thess 5:17
"Pray without ceasing"
 
John 15:5
Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.
 
Rest: Meditation, & quiet time. When we think about meditation the first thing that probably comes to mind is someone sitting in a white quiet room, sitting indian style, with eyes closed, elbows out with praying hands all while listening to soothing sounds. This is not what I'm talking about.
Meditation is when you go off and be alone, where it is quiet.( I prefer the outdoors, His masterpiece) Its when you take the time to sit and think(meditate) on His word. Think on it, take it in. Don't ask for anything. Just sit and stare at Him. Take in His beauty. That is your rest.
 
Psalms 1:1-3                         
    But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates day and night. He will be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, Which yields its fruit in its season And its leaf does not wither; And in whatever he does, he prospers.
 
Philippians 4:8     

 

Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.

 

Exercise: Putting All that you've learned into ACTION.

James 1:22

"But don't just listen to God's word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves."

When it comes to insecurity most of the problem is that we don't recognized the lies that are being fed to us. "You aren't worthy! You're so fat! He's going to leave you for a better woman if you don't stop being so insecure! Why are you so crazy?! She's had 3 kids and she looks better than you!" All of these negative thoughts point to the enemy.

Insecurity ultimately stems from a fear of something ,and this is what the Word has to say about that:

2 Timothy 1:7

"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind"

Yes, your insecurity comes from the devil, it's not just "who you are". So how do we EXERCISE the truth that we learn? 

 Taking all of those negative thoughts captive.

 

2 Corinthians 10:5(ESV)

⁵ We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion on raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ.

 

And Replace that lie with TRUTH. Speak it out loud and the devil will flee!

James 4:7

Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you

 

I see a lot of women who are obsessed with physical fitness but neglect being spiritually fit. I also see a lot of women who obsess over being spiritually fit but don't see the importance of being physically fit.

When I see women who are obsessed with their dieting and exercise I see insecurity in who they are, so they try to overcompensate by going the extreme, because something is missing. Yep, I've been there! And the women you are so Spiritual "fit" that ignore the command of God:

1 Corithians 6:19-

Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own. For you were bought with a price, so glorify God in your body.

 Which really isn't spiritually fit, because we are not being obedient to God, so we are spiritually "fat".

Transformation comes from the inside out. Not from the outside in. Let God Renew your mind so you can be spiritually fit,and in due time, you will start to see change on the outside. When you put your focus on God, everything else will fall into place, and then you will start to see that being spiritually fit and physically fit are connected.

 

Romans 12:2

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will.

 

 

 

Mirrors

Mirrors. A piece of glass that reflects what appears on the otherside. We look at them to see what we look like. We rely on them to tell us what we look like. 

    What if I told you that there was a mirror for inner beauty as well? You can constantly check it to see what you look like on the inside. You can carry it with you everywhere you go. And the best part is, the One who made you wrote this mirror with you in mind.God's Word. God's Word can tell us all about how beautiful we are in Christ, a beauty that will last. No magazine will tell you, no self help book, no blog post,no man or woman but HIS WORD. 

    The enemy is a LIAR! So dont believe everything that you think. You ARE WORTHY in Him! You are FEARFULLY and WONDERFULLY made! YOU are weak but His strength is made PERFECT in your weakness! YOU are PRECIOUS in His sight! That IS YOUR MIRROR and that is who YOU are! 


This is what God had to tell me this morning. I don't know about you but insecurity is my biggest struggle in life.It invades every aspect in my life when I let it. Satan wants you to feel unworthy. he wants you to stay home,he wants you to give up. Don't give up sisters and take heart bc He, our Father has overcome the world!!!

Response to Baltimore Rioting

Why is this happening?! Why are people this way?  And where does it come from?

 

 

 

Modesty. Insecurity. Sexual Purity.

  Where does your self worth come from?

 

Hope this encouraged you! Keep your skin for your husband!

What Does My Husband Need From Me?

#wifeywednesday

      To a woman, a man is the most complex of all God’s creatures. He has high expectations for himself; when he fails to attain his dreams, he experiences emotions that are difficult to handle at times. At times he may be afraid of rejection, comparison of another man, the inability to satisfy his wife. He may feel inadequate, insecure, frustrated and helpless as he faces the challenges of life. During these times of vulnerability, a man desperately needs an understanding helper.

Gen 2:18 -The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”.       

 He needs acceptance, affirmation, and appreciation.

 

A godly husband is going to show respect for his wife in the way he treats her. This begins with his thought life:

        Proverbs 23:7- "for he is the kind of person
    who is always thinking about the cost.^[a]
“Eat and drink,” he says to you,
    but his heart is not with you."

* Or for as he thinks within himself, / so he is; or for as he puts on a feast, / so he is

 
His thought life is evident in his lifestyle:
1Peter 3:7
     ^"Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers."
 
And it will be evident in his communication:
Eph 4:29 "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."

 
 Because women are natural responders, they generally will respond to efforts or lack of efforts from their husbands. Although we are considered the "responders” this does not give us an excuse to sit back and let our husbands the first move of being kind. God commands us: Eph 5:33
"However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband"      
 It doesn’t say,”wives, respect your husbands only when they are loving to you first and worthy of respect.”  God extended acceptance to everyone and didn’t wait until they were “worthy” of His love. He simply loved first:
Romans 5:8
"But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us ."
 
 A wife should treat her husband as if he is already the person that God desires him to be.

 

What does he need from me?

•  A husband needs to have respect of his wife and her sincere admiration.

Eph 5:33

"However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband"

A wife needs to express gratitude to her husband’s life, faithfulness, work, provision and care.

• A husband needs appreciation. To recognize his worth, or to hold in high regard to in respect.(Eph 5:33)
• A husband also needs affirmation. A wife should speak kind words, "She speaks with wisdom,    and faithful instruction is on her tongue."Pro31:26 , and assure her husband of her love and fidelity," Her husband has full confidence in her
      and lacks nothing of value.
   She brings him good, not harm,    all the days of her life". Prov 31:11-12
• A husband needs sexual fulfillment.

  "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. ⁴ The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. ⁵ Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."   1Co 7:3-5

• A husband needs a home to which he can go for comfort and peace. 

  ^"Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death." Ge 24:67

• A husband needs to find his wife attractive and be proud of her.

"Her children arise and call her blessed;
    her husband also, and he praises her:
²⁹ “Many women do noble things,    but you surpass them all.” Prov 31:28-29

 

 

He needs to share mutual fellowship and fun with her.

A husband should be considered a precious gift from God, to be treated with sensitivity, tenderness, and love. To meet his needs requires time-listening, touching, doing kind things for him and getting creative with your acts of love.

Ecc4:9-12

"Two are better than one,
    because they have a good return for their labor:
¹⁰ If either of them falls down,
    one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls    and has no one to help them up."

 

 

This post was inspired by the books "Love and Respect", & "His Needs/Her Needs".

Wifey posts every Wednesday!

A Wise woman vs. A Foolish woman

#wifeywednesday

Proverbs 14:1

"The wise woman builds her house,
but with her own hands the foolish one tears her down."

The fact that this woman is called "wise" indicates that she fears and reverences the Lord. She conscientiously builds her house, making her entire household thrive, because she has learned that wisdom brings the happiness and prosperity she desires for her family. The wise woman cares for her home by making wise choices in her relationship with her husband(&children). She works on her marriage, knowing that intimacy does not happen naturally but must be developed. All building takes time, picturing brick set on brick until a sturdy safe home is constructed.

In Contrast, the foolish woman does not build. She tears down both her possessions and relationship. She destroys by her own efforts- with her hands, her tongue, her idleness, and her lack of interest.
                            

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A NOBLE Wife vs. A Disgraceful Wife

A NOBLE Wife vs. A Disgraceful Wife

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Proverbs 12:4

“ A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown

But a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.

         A wife affects her husband. She either becomes a crown to him or brings him to ruin like a horrible disease that weakens the body.  Noble means “Strength”. Noble is a reference of moral character. This wife possess “strong” character. She is a woman of ability and worth. “Crown” suggests that this wife of quality enables her husband to realize his potential. Because of her character and resourcefulness, her husband is greatly admired by others.

 

        In Contrast is the woman who puts her husband to shame before the world. While the wife of quality helps her husband reach the fullness of his abilities, the shameful wife will drag her husband down all his days, and he will never command respect nor win influence in the community. To have such a wife is like enduring an infestation of maggots in the bones. It is a horrible irritant and a fatal disease.

 

 

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