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1. Use the time apart wisely,learning how to communicate in a way that others never get a chance to develop. Take advantage of technology & write letters.
2. Don't ever waste your energy wondering if you'll grow apart, or focussing on how much it stinks to be apart. Focus on the blessings that come from waiting and above that, being free. Keep your head up and take one day at a time.
3.Dealing with deployment can seem very one sided at times because your man doesn't have the luxury of catering to your every need. Don't get too hung up on your "rights". If you chose to be committed and faithful to a military man you have chosen to have to be selfless. No act of selflessness is greater than laying one's life down for another- just be thankful that he is willing to be over there to keep you free.
When you feel the need to fill that void of loneliness and he can't be there, think instead of what you can do for him. He is missing home, he doesn't get to see the beautiful landscaping of America and all of the other luxuries that you get to have. If you feel unloved, sad, or alone get out and do something that makes you feel good. Take time to find things you like to do and get to know yourself as well.
4. No matter how hard it is for you remember that he is probably feeling the same loneliness that you do. He may be busy but he still misses everything about home. Strive to be understanding and accept these rough patches with womanly grace instead of a grieving child.
5. Don't sweat the small stuff by worrying about the pattern of the communication or the lack of when those times come. Relax and rest in faith knowing that you will eventually get to talk to him and the grace of another opportunity to interact again and get back on course. Kicking in screaming through this isn't going to help anything. Smile with peace.
6.Listen to him, accept him, encourage him, remind him that he's strong, send him packages, give him a break, be the only sunshine that he talks doesn't mean if something is bothering you that you can't tell him)
Don't weigh him down with unrealistic demands that he somehow be the boyfriend that he could be if he were here in person. learn how to be his friend.
7. take pride in knowing that it takes a strong hearted person and dedication to date in the military and very few can do it. When you are weak, can't hug him, can't kiss him, can't talk to him.... pray for him and rely on God!
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